1. You don’t need a “theme”.
"There is a lot of pressure sometimes to pick an outright theme, but I felt it was easier for me to focus on creating a feeling. So I would ask yourself, do you want it to be whimsical? Intimate and romantic? Energetic? Elegant? And then go from there.
Being an event planner and seeing other brides on their day has helped me to keep perspective. Since I started planning my wedding so long ago, I’ve had a lot of ideas about how things should go. Now I realize that I can’t get caught up on the details and making it ‘perfect’- just the fact that it’ll be my wedding day will make it perfect.
3. Amongst the celebrating, take time to reflect.
No doubt there is a party element to it, but I’m going to take a few moments on my day to remember that it’s about marrying my best friend for the rest of my life. I don’t want the importance of the day to pass me by without appreciating it and taking it all in.
4. Just because it’s trendy doesn’t mean you have to do it.
Mike has been afraid that I’m going to put him in a bow tie. Bow ties are very hip right now. I told him he can breath easy, it’s just not my style. 10 years from now I don’t want to be looking at our pictures shaking my head and laughing- so my personal taste will prevail...not that there is anything wrong with bow ties.
5. Let others recommend and steer, but make the final decision yourselves.
"It's really popular right now to have a 'reveal' where the bride and groom are photographed seeing each other for the first time. Everyone is trying to convince me to do it, but I've always imagined having that moment walking down the isle. My sister, who knows me so well, told me to listen to myself and no one else. So that's just what I'm going to do, and I don't think I"ll regret it."