Everything Old Is New Again - How To Mix Old & New Wedding Traditions
We have had the pleasure to get to know and work with the very talented, Crystal Adair-Benning from Distinct Occasions! She was so kind to guest blog and provide insight on how to incorporate old & new wedding traditions into your special day.
Everything old is new again. Ever hear that old adage? It's predominantly used in relation to fashion but it holds true even more so in weddings. Traditions are cyclical. They tend to come in and out of fashion as quickly as this seasons haute couture!
So, how does a modern bride and groom plan the wedding of THEIR dreams with families trying to relive memory lane through old traditions? It all takes a little bit of compromise and sometimes a 'twist'.
*Krista Fox Photography
Step 1 - Get To Know The Traditions
Maybe part of the problem in not wanting to incorporate a tradition is simply that you (or your family) don't understand the tradition itself! Ask older relatives, friends or even your Wedding Planner what the history is!
Step 2 - Does The Tradition Make Sense TODAY
Some traditions no longer make sense! For example not seeing each other before the wedding dates back to the time of arranged marriages, when people truly believed that if you saw one another pre-ceremony you might change your mind and run for the hills! Since, likely, you are not marrying this person through arranged marriage, this is likely no longer a concern for you and could be a tradition that's easily switched!
*Dave Abreu Photography
Step 3 - Can The Tradition Be Modified
If you are Greek you might love throwing a plate or two as a blessing to the happy couple but many venues don't allow this practice! If it's a tradition you still want to keep can it be adjusted? What about breaking of a plate outside of the venue and having someone clean it up? Could an area be arranged with a small box to toss plates into? The tradition may still be enjoyed and simply adjusted a little bit to be more modern or acceptable!
Step 4 - Embrace Your Partners Traditions
If you are marrying someone of another culture be prepared for tradition-shock! An Italian Bride marrying a Hindu Groom may prove quite the surprise in cultural expectations. If you are savvy and game to learn, embrace the traditions! Find a beautiful wedding lengha, host dual wedding ceremonies, serve an Italian supper! There are no rules on WHICH traditions need to be embraced or how you combine them to make your wedding unique!
*Taylor Jackson Photography
Step 5 - Turn Tradition On Its Head
Many of us grow up with 'traditions' in our families. If you don't LOVE the traditions of a wedding, for example: something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, then modify it to be more you - something his, something yours, something ours!
Stop looking at wedding traditions (superstitious, cultural or otherwise) as wedding-downers. Use them as a starting point to express your unique style, personality and own traditions! Who knows? Maybe in a few years whacking a pinata instead of cutting a cake will be all the rage!